Diminishing appreciation

So many times I get the opposite response of what I’m looking for.

So many times I get the opposite response of what I’m looking for.

If you ever come in contact with this?

When did it become proper to answer “no problem” to the statement thank you?

If it sounds like I’m becoming more and more like my father in my old age, I am. Or am I just realizing I am more like my father?
How about
If it sounds like I’m becoming more and more like my father in my old age, I am. Or am I just realizing I am more like my father?

How about you? When you say thank you to someone is “no problem” the appropriate or solicited response? 

Or would you rather hear “you’re welcome?”

Personally I only say “thank you” when someone has gone above and beyond to do me some form of favor or they have gone the extra mile.

So… “No problem” means “I didn’t do anything special. It’s no big deal.”

I think that diminishes my appreciation of someone’s efforts. 


I really want to know the answer. 

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18 thoughts on “Diminishing appreciation”

  1. Actually I don’t give a damn what
    people’s responses are anymore.
    The world has changed so much
    and become so pathetically cold.
    Who cares what is said. That’s
    their issue not mine. Right is right
    and wrong is wrong. It all comes
    out in the long run.

  2. Mr. John:

    In reflecting on your post, I realized three things.
    1 – I never really thought about this issue before, but I agree with you. Saying “no problem” does diminish whatever has been said or done.
    2 – I almost always answer a thank you with “my pleasure.” It just seems like the right response for me to give to others.
    3 – Three “common” things are no longer common in today’s world. Those things are common courtesy, common decency, and common sense.

    Thank you, Mr. John, for all you do for everyone else.

  3. I think they are just making every thing today a short way of saying anything. It is proper to say what you mean. Thank you means just that and your welcome, also the proper way to say it is no longer an option today. Almost everything has a slang word, it’s like they are too tired to speak proper. What is it with this country lately? I am just saying!

  4. John, I do rather like to hear your welcome to, but I also think no problem is a way 4 people to say they would do that for you no matter what and that you’re important to them so take it either way just a sign of The Changing Times

  5. Walmart is requiring us to say, “my pleasure,” when we help a customer. I usually say, “you’re welcome,” any other time.

  6. John, you think about some really obscure things. But that’s nice that you care about the English language and the lexicon usage. I recall you had a query about the word “just” because you thought it minimized the statement. Very observational. This post is something similar and as usual you want to “push” people into making statements about their colloquialisms. I believe many folks think “Thank You,” or “You’re welcome,” or even “I love You,” can be trite, so they try to change the normal repartee to something else to perhaps be noticed or conversely, to merely “fit in” to the rest of the group by not making any waves. It’s “no problem,” in the general sense that no fuss has been made, but I do like the more proper response of “thank you,” or “you’re welcome, ” and I love you” is still a welcomed phrase in my world.

  7. Hmm. I don’t think there’s a definite answer to something like this because when you’re dealing with different ages, they respond to things differently. Maybe the ‘no problem’ was meant as a ‘you’re welcome’? I’m with you – I prefer to hear ‘you’re welcome’ – but as I’m nearing mid 40s, I’m becoming acutely aware that those 15-20 years younger than me speak a very different language. And there’s nothing wrong with becoming more like your dad; I’m becoming more like my mom (who passed in 2013). And I’m quite proud of that. 🙂

  8. I agree with you, but I would rather get a “No Problem” than nothing at all. Nowadays with everyone’s head in the clouds and on their phones we are lucky that we get any verbal communication at all. I just want you to know that I appreciate you and all that you try to accomplish in your life. I think you are a great role model, you are decent to your fans and you are super talented. You always have been. Take care of yourself.

  9. I say no problem all the time…for example if I stop what I’m doing at work to get something for somebody or answer their question, that is part of my job so I’m not doing anything above and beyond but it is still nice to hear a thank you or I appreciate it.

  10. I am guilty of giving the answer “no problem” or “don’t mention it.” On occasion you might even get a “it’s my pleasure” out of me. If I go out of my way and do something for someone, it is because I want to not because I am looking for them to make a fuss about it or to laud me for doing it. I am sure your friend meant no disrespect by their response.

      1. “It’s my pleasure” is my standard response to “Thank you”. I agree, ‘No problem” minimalizes ones appreciation. I want people to know I enjoyed helping them and I appreciate their Thank You.

      2. I use “It’s My Pleasure” all the time. “No Problem” minimallizes the appreciation of a genuine Thank you.

  11. Hearing “Thank You” is much more pleasing to the ear, then “No Problem”.
    Yet it seems “Thank You” is a phrase that is seemingly going out of style with people. In the lines of work that I do it’s nice to hear a “Thank You” (especially when ushering a Broadway show).
    It’s common courtesy in my mind. Regardless of where I am, or what I’m doing when not at my jobs, holding the door and hearing someone say “Thank You” makes me smile, which it’s then followed by a hearty “You’re Welcome”. Hearing “No Problem” is as if the person is brushing it off and not taking in or giving away anything.
    It’s almost that “fine line” because one could say hearing “no problem” is another form of “Thank You”, yet as I said, I’d rather hear a “Thank You” after doing something for someone and then giving a pleasant and thoughtful “You’re Welcome” in return.

  12. I am guilty as charged on this one! I have the horrible habit of saying, “No problem.” I do need to work on my responses as this is having me think more. I think like this….”No problem, I am happy to help when I can.” However, it usually is shortened. I think people also say it, because they may not want the other person to realize what all was involved in achieving something in their favor. I guess I need to work on this! Your welcome is the correct response. I think where it stems from me is LIFE with FAMILY AND FRIENDS is not a scoreboard. You just help one another if it is possible. No problem is a way of diminishing it. Well, you now have me thinking….You have always been good at that. By the way, YOUR WELCOME for the response. LOL 🙂

  13. As someone who has used this response, I honestly never thought of it this way. To me it meant that I was happy to do it for you. I may have gone out of my way to do a task but I either care for you enough or respect you enough that I in no way felt put out to do that for you. Although as I think about it, from me, you usually get both.

  14. To hear the words, “thank you” says a lot at least to me, this tells me you are aware of what I have done for you. Often those words are hard to even hear, so “your welcome” should follow. If I have ever forgotten to say those words, to you mostly, I apologize, I feel humbled when someone says thank you to me in the first place. It could have something to do with how I was raised. My question to you, and I face this often, do you feel it is necessary greet person/people when you enter a room?

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