family affair and venting

Last night I had the greatest steak at a little joint in Holden, Louisiana called Cullen’s.

Mom and pop and kids run it. I love places like that… remember?

If you ever get out this way… say for a “Dukes” event or something… you MUST try it out.

So I’m sitting there having a wonderful salad and waiting for the medium rare steak… and… here’s my mistake… reading my email.

It’s amazing how some new piece of news can almost ruin an appetite. I get three emails… all the same at three different addresses from someone who is upset with me about something that I have done or am no longer doing in Social Media…

You know… I’m not going to go there. I was so amazed at what this person had to say… the… um… ownership that they seemed to feel they had a right to express in my personal life that I thought I’d vent here.

This is not the place for me to vent. I’m not going to do it. Instead… I am going to focus on the positive. The VERY positive of my dining experience last night.

Deep breath… relax now, John…

BTW… Personally I am loving this new way. So simple. So clean.

Stop it, John. You said a second ago that you weren’t going to vent. So don’t vent.

Okay… Now…

The amazing thing about this place is that it truly is a family affair. The whole family works there. cooks or cleans with pride there. Enjoys what they do.

If you can find a place like this to frequent in your area… go there. It’s god for the soul.

It’s also good for the family who owns/runs it.

We need to support establishments like Β Cullen’sΒ whenever we can. It’s spirit and tenacity and good old fashioned stick-to-it-ness like this that built this country and the same that will build it back and keep it strong.

Have to run to the airport now and fly to Los Angeles for a day. On the way I’m going to stop and get a home made burger at my new favorite place to eat in Holden!

Schneider

31 thoughts on “family affair and venting”

  1. I totally agree with everyone, you need to vent once in a while. And you might as well vent here where you have open ears to hear you, and support you. And, yes, I delete emails as well. Celebrities are not the only ones with crazies! Lol Love Ya! Good luck on that thing you got going on in Louisiana where you filmed, “Smothered.”

  2. Regarding mom and pop establishments, I agree. We should patronize the smaller, family-owned and run restaurants and eateries. Not because we are so against a major chain, but rather to appreciate the ambiance of places that do not have the cookie-cutter stamp of the same surroundings you can find from Minnesota to Miami or from Los Angeles to Louisiana. People who work at their own businesses are the backbone of the restaurant industry. They care for their customers, they serve with love and respect, and they want to make their own mark in the world. Big business is here to stay, but it’s always nice to enter a new place of business with the owner’s name on the sign. They welcome you because they really want you to stay and perhaps try out their own grandmother’s recipe: something special and an item that may never be duplicated again in some other person’s restaurant. The individual is what made our country great. Smell the special coffee and the apple pie. Yummy.

  3. You said that very well,The main thing is that John Is Happy With John ,And I know one thing For Sure there Is No Reason For Him to Say I’s Sorry,He Has Done What He Feels Is right For Both Him self and his Fans,If Any One Can’t or Want Back and Support Him in doing What He Feels is right for Him Then They are Not a True Fan,Now Are they ?

  4. I first wrote this 18 months ago for your Official Fan Club. I hope you like it. It comes from the heart.

    Why I Like John Schneider by Shiralee K Johnson

    Why I like John as an entertainer is because he has played so many different roles and is so versatile as an actor. When I watched a film he is in I can escape into that film. His character can make me both laugh and cry equally and feel what his character feels. He can play the hero or the villain both so well.
    I also love his music. He has a beautiful voice full of feeling. He can move me with beautiful songs like What’s a memory like you and Someone to miss. Or make me feel upbeat with songs like Long Neck Bottle of Beer (my three year old’s favourite)
    But finally and most importantly. I like John because he has such a warm, friendly and kind personality. He has so much love and time for his fans. He has such a busy life and career yet he still finds time for his fans. He truly appreciate each and every one of us. So I’d like to say Thank you John for entertaining me and making me so happy.

    Shiralee

  5. I agree with you & everyone! Vent, vent, vent! You do what you need to do to make YOUR life easier. Some people need to get a life outside of this social media. Anyway, we have a mom & pop southern/soul food place that is just awesome here in Smyrna, TN. It’s called, ” M & V’s.” They have the best catfish fillets I have ever had. It’s located in the same shopping center as our Kmart & Big Lots off of Murfreesboro Rd. They have other delicious things. It is run by sweet Christian couple and their kids.

  6. I hated to here about your negative e-mails. Sometimes people will do anything to get attation. And not thinking or caring how the other person my feel. It is just about them. I remember my Grandmother would always tell me ” if you can not say somthing nice do not say anything at all”, This statement is so true. You can always find something nice to say, yes sometimes you have to look a little harder to find it, but it is there.

  7. That restaurant sounds like a place I loved, I love the personal touch and home style cooking
    As for venting everyone needs a good vent now and then.
    This change is hard for some to understand, but at the end of the day what ever works for you works for us. I’ll always support you in what ever you do. I love how much you share so much with us. That is what makes you truly special and the person we love.
    I really enjoyed the 10,000 days chat last night. Once I worked out what I was doing.
    Have a safe journey to LA and have a great time. You have my love and support as a fan always πŸ™‚

  8. Love this new site you have. Love the fact you stayed on topic of your experience with the family affair restaurant and not steer toward a vent session, that’s what’s so awesome about you, you can mellow when you need to. I agree 100% that places that are managed and owned by a family can and is difficult and we should help them by being patrons to their establishments. These type of owners have it rough to try and differentiate between family time and work time and both probably conflict a number of times throughout their existence. If there is a Duke event near there and I have the monies to attend, then maybe we could catch a meal there. πŸ™‚ Have a good time in LA, we’ll chat again soon.

    John M. Stillwater, NS Canada.

  9. Honestly, John, you’re not gonna make everyone happy with this new move, BUT it’s your choice to make and you have to do what’s right for you and no one else. I’m glad you made this move.

  10. Thank You,For Telling Us about those emails and How upset You were,I must say before I tell you the next thing I did Because,You see, you reminded me of myself difference is You had more self Control than I seem to have in not only this matter but others as well.I had to laugh I am sorry,I know how you felt you see ? I’ve been reading some of the post Made after you chose to Come here,and I had a feeling you would be getting some emails but,I never dreamed that any one would go that far.
    People don’t seem to understand that You have to do what is easiest for you to be able to do all you do,I understand quit well,You have quit a few Sticks in the fire at one time and You are doing your very best to keep them up on what you are doing at the same time,I can’t Begin to tell You what I would like to,but It’s those kind of things that makes things very hard for me..I know you can’t be expected to understand that.
    But,maybe some day when there is time for explaining πŸ™‚ I can ..
    Have a safe Trip ..
    You will always Be My Hero

    Always & Forever
    Fay

  11. What I took away from that is that you were back in LP!
    πŸ™‚

    Hope to “run into” you again soon!

    I’ve never heard of the place. Is it new? I’ll have to look it up.

  12. Holden, Louisiana. I’m gonna have to look that up. I lived in Louisiana all my life (until I moved to Michigan a couple of years ago) and never heard of it, but I will find it and try out Cullen’s.

    I’ve learned to not take ownership of other people’s problems (which is good since I’m a mental health therapist πŸ™‚ ). Breathe, DELETE and move forward. You will never please everyone, and the good thing is, you don’t have to. The most wonderful man that ever walked this earth displeased many people and still does today – Jesus.

    Peace.

  13. It’s sad that most of those mom and pop places are out of business. They are from an earlier era when life was so much easier and so less time consuming. People actually had time to sit down and eat dinner with their family and talk about the day’s events. Our country has changed so much in the last few years and, sadly, a lot of the changes are for the worse instead of the better.
    Don’t worry about venting, John. I’ve been venting some this week as well and I think it’s about the same issue you are venting about. Some people think that I can answer every question they have about what you are doing. I do promote as much as I can for you and for Scott but I certainly don’t know what your personal decisions are and why you made those decisions. It’s none of my business as they are your decisions. I hope that people stop asking me about them.
    Enough of my venting. I’d like to go back to that earlier era when life was so nice…..

  14. John I have been a fan of yours since 1979 when the Dukes first aired. I was 10 yrs. old, now 47yrs old. As a kid I had that girl crush that most kids and teens have for a celebrity. Your pictures covered my bedroom walls. LOL Now as an adult I admire you as a person and love all the work you do. I watch and buy every movie, tv show ect that you are in. I THANK YOU for all the updates and information about your personal life that you share with us your fans. Most celebrities dont do that. I love hearing about your kids and Elly. You go over and beyond for your fans and I thank you for that. All the traveling to be at Dukes events to meet us personally, (in which I have been to many to see you). Your true fans will always be there to support you and will always follow your career. You have been apart of my life for many years and will be for many more. THANK YOU

  15. John- This is your life and you don’t owe anyone an apology for living it. I can recall you once sharing one of your favorite quotes by Mark Twain/Samuel Clemens “No good deed goes unpunished.” It is ridiculous that you are expected to be perfect. You are so good to so many people and all I can say is that people need to” move on.” You do not need that negativity in your life. Surround yourself with people that add to your life and not subtract. Negativity is like a horrible virus that spreads. Keep doing what you’re doing. You do so much for so many people. You are not a press hound so 99% of it never gets acknowledged. One thing changes and some are going to turn against you. I used to apologize to everyone all the time for everything. I had to stop and that is on a small scale. Live your life with passion and purpose and those that matter will always support you. If you like your reflection in the mirror than that is what counts. Living your life with integrity and honesty. From what I can see, your reflection looks just fine. I am so proud of you!

    1. Adding to what I wrote earlier. I guess BE FLATTERED! Be flattered that somehow their whole world is disrupted when you make a change. It is ridiculous that anyone feels that they own you and out of respect they should not react that way. Again, If you like that reflection in the mirror, then that is what counts. You are the only person that has to answer to you. This is your blog and you should feel free to express any opinion that you like. Isn’t that the point of being a writer? Not to be constrained and pigeon holed. DREAM BIG and SHOUT IT LOUD! Be flattered and let it go. When they ruin your day/dinner…they win! Nobody should have the right to ruin your day. πŸ™‚ Enjoy your LIFE!

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